Particle 1 has a characteristic decay rate of $\tau_1,$ particle 2 has a characteristic decay rate of $\tau_2.$
The decay rate is defined as: during a small time interval $\Delta t,$ the probability that the particle decays is $\Delta t/\tau.$ So the probability that it doesn't decay is $1-\Delta t/\tau.$ In a finite time $T$, we have to multiply the probabilities that the particle hasn't decayed during interval 1, nor during interval 2, nor during interval 3, etc. The probability that the particle hasn't decayed is:
$$P(\textrm{hasn't decayed})=\left(1-\frac{\Delta t}{\tau}\right)^{T/\Delta t}\approx e^{-T/\tau}$$
So the probability that particle 1 hasn't decayed and particle 2 hasn't decayed can be found by multiplying the two independent probabilities:
We see it makes sense to define $\tau_3$ as
I always have to use roundabout reasoning to think about these things; we have the probability that either particle decays is one minus the probability that neither particle decays:
and this should be interpreted as the cumulative distribution of either particle decaying at time $T$:
The expectation value $\langle T\rangle=\int_0^\infty T\rho(T)dT$ is just $\tau_3.$ So the expected time of first decay of either particle is
$$\tau_3=\left(\frac{1}{\tau_1}+\frac{1}{\tau_2}\right)^{-1}$$
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